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Being intersex means a person is born with physical sex characteristics, such as chromosomes, hormones, or reproductive anatomy, that don’t fit typical definitions of male or female. This can involve differences in genitalia, internal organs, or hormone levels. Intersex traits are natural and can appear at birth or become noticeable later in life.

Intersex is about biological variation and is different from gender identity or sexual orientation.

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Most people appreciate being asked their pronouns, it shows respect. Since you can't always tell someone's gender or preferred pronouns just by looking at them, it's always a good idea to ask when meeting someone new.

 It means a person’s gender identity is different from the sex they were assigned at birth. 

• Gender identity is about who you are (man, woman, nonbinary, etc.).
   
• Sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to (gay, straight, bisexual, etc.).
  Being transgender has nothing to do with who someone is attracted to.

You don't—unless they choose to tell you. It's respectful not to assume. 

No. Some do, some don’t. Transitioning looks different for each person, and not everyone wants or can access medical procedures. 

Generally, no. Questions about someone’s body, medical history, or “real name” (sometimes called a deadname) are considered invasive and disrespectful. You wouldn't ask someone generally about their medical history. 

Cisgender refers to someone whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth. People often use this term to distinguish between being cisgender and transgender.

However, if you’re not comfortable using the term cisgender, that’s okay—you don’t have to. And if someone refers to you that way and you’d prefer they didn’t, it’s perfectly fine to let them know respectfully. Like many things, it’s about communication and mutual respect.

 It's similar to how you know you're cisgender, just like knowing if you're heterosexual or homosexual. Many kids, just like adults, simply know who they are.